Master Hui Lu - Practicing Buddhism does Not Necessarily Require Compassion 學佛不一定要慈悲

(English subtitles) (English subtitles) Master Hui Lu 慧律法師, born in 1953, talks dharma.
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Let me tell you, practicing Buddhism does not necessarily require compassion. Did you know? Master, what you said is contradictory. No, no, my words are not contradictory. Sometimes, you need to learn being selfish. Then I said this, the crowd ...... I see them all frowning. I'll give you an example.
You need to be selfish or compassionate on different occasions.
There was a laywoman. I asked, Do you have any question? Since we got married, my husband has drunk alcohol for 5 years, 10 years, 15 years. We have got married for 20 years and have immeasurable disputes and brawls for drinking liquor. Then I asked her, How long have you disputed? We have disputed for 15 years. How long have you brawled? Over 10 years too. Is there any way you can change him? No, I can't. I am so heartbroken and painful.
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It's a rare chance that I came to visit master today, may you solve my problem? I said, Sure, it's easy. There are three solutions. Do you want to hear them? It's simple. First of all, it is better to change yourself than to change others. You try to change him. He is a drunkard. Humans are the slave of habit. He can't stop drinking.
Well, in order to prevent him from drinking, you two get into a fight and bleed. Is it worth it? She said, Um, I really can't change him. Um, Master, I agree with your first solution. The 2nd solution is to pray to Guanshiyin Bodhisattva. Because you can't change it, just chant Namo Guanshiyin Bodhisattva. May my husband soon break his bad habit of drinking liquor..
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Namo Guanshiyin Bodhisattva. Master, what if it still doesn't work? Then you have to use the 3rd solution. What is it? I don't mind if you drop dead. Why not drink and die?